Coping with the Sudden Loss of a Cat
Losing a 4 legged family member is just as hard as losing any other family member. We always hope they have a full and healthy life, but sometimes the opportunity to see them grow to old age and pass of natural causes is taken away from us. The unexpected and sudden death of a pet leaves a profound impact on us - particularly under less than compassionate circumstances, such as a hit and run. Our brains are not programmed to accept the sudden shock of a senseless loss of a soul we loved so dearly, and the need for some form of closure and understanding of the situation is a process that many of us struggle with. The loss of a cat, regardless of the cause, leaves a deafening silence around the home, one which is excruciatingly loud, and we hope no one feels like they have to bear that completely alone.
The relationship shared with our pets is a special and unique bond, a bond which sometimes others find difficult to understand. For us it is a cruel new reality we have to come to terms with, and there's certainly no time limit on grief.
Paws to Listen
Grief Support Service
Cats Protection offers a free and confidential grief support service where anyone is welcomed with an empathetic, non-judgemental listening ear offering emotional and practical help in coping with the loss of a cat.
The services is supported by free online guides and leaflets to help owners with sensitive issues including understanding euthanasia and how to help children deal with the death of a much-loved pet.
You can contact this service on 0800 024 94 94. Lines are open Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm, but a call-back service is also available. If you prefer, you can email support service at
Cats Protection also also have a range of resources and information that can be found HERE.
Blue Cross are happy to open their ears and offer professional emotional support. Whether you have lost a cat, are facing losing a cat, or simply need somebody to talk to about losing any pet under any circumstance, the team are keen for people to know they are just an email or phone call away.
Blue Cross Pet Bereavement Support Service (PBSS) can be contacted on Freephone: 0800 096 6606 or email: email@example.com for those who are more comfortable writing their feelings down. The helpline is open every day of the year from 8.30am to 8.30pm and completely free, and confidential. We urge people to understand they are NEVER alone so do reach out, and allow people to help who understand your grief.
Helping Children Grieve
When we have children who are also grieving, it can be hard to stay strong or know the right things to say or do when we are grieving ourselves.
YOU ARE NOT
One thing we want our supporters to know is that they are never alone. We personally understand what you are going through having sadly lost our own cats to the road. We understand the pain of coming to terms with a new reality and the anger upon learning a driver fled the scene leaving them alone roadside. We get the range of emotions forced upon people.
We will always be just an email or a PM away if fellow victims' parents ever want to discuss their emotional journey with us, and reach out to a friend.
Everyone is different in their preferred way of opening up to people when grieving. While some prefer to write feelings down, others take comfort in speaking face to face, either in person or via video call. The Scottish Pet Bereavement Counselling Service offer a holistic service helping people find ways to build their resilience at such a difficult time and help them develop healthy coping mechanisms in addition to traditional counselling.